Are you dating a guy who seems perfect, but is jealous and insecure on the inside? Read these 17 big signs of a possessive boyfriend to find out!
Is it so bad to be a possessive lover?
After all, all of us are possessive, at least in the first few stages in the nine stages of love when we’re insecure and not too sure of our partner’s love for us.
When you display a sign of possessiveness, you could be seen as a girl who loves her boyfriend a lot and fears losing him.
But there’s a thin line between displaying possessiveness as a sign of love, and displaying possessiveness as a sign of control and dominance.
Are you dating a jealous and possessive boyfriend?
Jealousy and possessiveness can seem extremely cute to begin with.
You laugh about it, talk about it with your friends, and you feel really loved and special because there’s a guy who can’t seem to live a moment without hearing from you.
Your boyfriend’s possessiveness reaffirms his love for you, and it makes you feel like you’re the only girl that matters in his whole life!
But what if his possessiveness goes too far and stops you from living your own life?
How can you tell if he’s being loving or controlling, when you just can’t see the difference? You may believe that your boyfriend is really possessive only because he loves you so much.
But the truth is, love has very little to do with most people’s possessive nature. More often than not, it’s a guy’s insecurity that makes him jealous and possessive. And beyond showing your love and affection to him, there’s really not much you can do to change him if he chooses to control you through his jealous and possessive nature!
Jealousy and possessiveness go hand in hand
When your boyfriend gets jealous, he’d feel insecure. And when he feels insecure, he’d become more possessive. And each time he displays his possessiveness and gets to control your behavior, it makes him feel more powerful in the relationship. And this power to control you *that you willingly give away each time you give in to his possessive habits* makes him assume that he’s the final authority in the relationship.
And each time you break free or do something he doesn’t approve of, it makes him feel more jealous and insecure because he believes he’s losing his grip and power over you.
Jealousy and possessiveness is a vicious cycle that takes turns to rear their head all the time. And no matter how hard you try to help your boyfriend feel better and more loved, he may only choose to see the ways that you’ve let him down.
The only way a guy can rid himself of the cycle of jealousy and possessiveness is by confronting it himself. You can shower him with affection and make him feel loved, but there’s only so much you can do before you crumble into pieces yourself!