Not all marriages are between people who are madly in love. Plenty of people have a platonic marriage. Here’s why they may have chosen that route.
Marriage is an interesting institution. You’re basically vowing to spend your entire life with someone and are bound by law. Usually, this is when two people love each other and want to spend forever together. But what about platonic marriage? Do people really get married as just friends?
Well, yes. This type of marriage exists. The thing about getting married is that it’s a choice by two people. The law doesn’t care if you are truly in love or not. If you say you want to get married, you can get married.
Shouldn’t you marry your best friend, anyway?
You’ve probably heard this time and time again. “Make sure you marry your best friend.” So what’s the difference with a platonic marriage? In truth, this advice is solid. The person you marry should be your best friend, but that’s usually said while assuming you’re in love with someone, too.
The difference is that platonic marriage is between people who are ONLY friends. There’s no romance in the equation. This can be confusing because why would someone choose to get married to a person they’re not in love with?
Why people decide to be in a platonic marriage
If this concept is confusing, or even intriguing, you’ll want to know why it is people want to live like this. Here are a few reasons people go ahead and get married even though they’re not completely in love with each other.
#1 They want a family now. Unfortunately, there is an expiration date on having children yourself – for women, at least. People who end up in a platonic marriage might very well just want to start a family and they haven’t found someone they’ve fallen in love with yet.
What they do to solve this problem is just marry a friend who also wants a family. You don’t have to be in love with someone in order to start a family together. These types of marriages confirm just as much.
#2 They made a deal. You know when you hear about two people vowing to marry each other if they’re both still single by the time they’re 35 or something? Well, those deal really exist. They’re not just confined to a couple romantic comedies.
This is usually in relation to both people wanting a family. They decide to get married if they don’t find people they’re in love with by a certain age. So long as they’re still friends, it’s a platonic marriage.