#2 Realize you are not the same. Do not expect the same moves and dates to work as well as they once did. Both of you are different people now. So although those moments and memories can remind you of what you lost, alter those moments to who you are now.
Maybe you took risks and went on crazy adventures, but now you have more responsibilities. So reign back the danger and focus on the excitement.
#3 Work together. If you want to know how to reconnect with your spouse again, find something for you both to do together outside of the norm. Get away from the house and try something new. Take a cooking class, go to an escape room, or even teach each other something.
Working together is a wonderful way to reconnect and realize what made you such a great team in the first place.
#4 Talk and listen. Once you have been with someone for so long, you can go through life like a bit of a zombie. You may hear everything but don’t actually listen. So take the time.
Make sure you have breakfast together daily or carpool to work. Give yourself time to really talk and listen. Discuss your feelings, what you want, your plans, if you’re worried about something. Communication isn’t just about sharing, but about listening and interacting.
#5 Put in the effort. Once you are comfortable with someone, it makes everything easier. You do not need to feel nervous or dress up. But there is something about having butterflies in your stomach that gives you chemistry and passion.
Dress up, get a wax, style your hair, and put in that effort that you did in the beginning. First dates may be full of anxiety, but the effort you put into a first date is exciting. So get excited. Prepare for a date with your spouse like you did at the start of your romance.