It’s scary to think you are not attracted to your husband, but knowing for sure is important. Here are 20 signs to help you know for sure.
Everyone knows that attraction plays a big part in any relationship, and is usually the initial reason we end up starting a new one with someone.
Attraction doesn’t have to be purely physical. In fact, for many people, emotional attraction is just as – if not more – important. There are a huge number of factors that can make any one person attractive.
For example, someone making you laugh, being clever, sharing hobbies and interests, and being kind and compassionate are all things that might make you feel attracted to someone. And these things will be more or less important for different people.
The things that make us not attracted to someone are also interesting to think about. Being stubborn, hot-headed, unkind, selfish, lazy, unambitious – the list of things we don’t look for in a potential mate is just as long.
Everyone has their flaws, their strengths and weaknesses, and finding someone who ticks all your boxes is a big challenge. It’s also important to remember that our tastes and desires change over time, so while you might be attracted to wild bad boys in your early twenties, you may well find that who you are attracted to a decade later is someone kind, stable, and loyal.
Signs you’re not attracted to your husband
Realizing that you are not attracted to your husband now can feel like a massive problem, and something that you are unable to fix. However, before you throw in the towel, it is first important to recognize the signs that you’re not attracted to your husband, and then figure out what you can do about it.
Let’s take a look.
#1 You think he has let himself go. If you find yourself less physically attracted to your partner because he has put on weight or doesn’t take time or care with his appearance anymore, you could find yourself feeling a little resentful. If can feel insulting if your partner stops making an effort, so this can be a sign that you are not attracted to your husband.
#2 You get irritated more easily by the things he says and does. Find your blood boiling at the smallest things? He tries to make a joke, and you can’t help but think ‘what an idiot?’ If you are starting to find him much more irritating than usual, you are distancing yourself from him, and focusing more on the negatives.
#3 You care less about making an effort around him. If you no longer care whether he finds you attractive anymore, this is a sure-fire sign you’re not attracted to your husband, and that your relationship could be in a bit of hot water. Trying to look your best and caring about your appearance is a way of showing your partner that you care about them. If neither of you bother anymore, it may be that you don’t feel as close as you used to.